The Chronicles of La Bae

I've noticed this trend for a while now and I decided to say nothing and do nothing. Unfortunately the issue has gotten out of hand. I believe its best someone said something about it

before other young ladies indulge in the same act. I'm not criticising having a boyfriend but please "sister mi" could you have a responsible one? It might be just me noticing this or there might be

others who have seen same with me. The problem is that whenever girls of this age find a boyfriend or get a new boyfriend they tend to conform and

change their lives to fit his likes and dislikes.

To make the scenario clear, we'll use a certain lady named "LA Bae". LA Bae is young, innocent and decent. She meets a new guy named " Le Boo"

and the two hit it off. Before you know it LA Bae starts exhibiting characters unimaginable. Further investigation will however show that "Le Boo"

loves her that way and as such she will strive to be that way. At first it doesn't seem scary but when she starts ignoring her friends you get to

know that all is not well and that crayfish has started wearing suit.

Le boo just has to say "I love girls who fix their lashes and nails" and the next day LA Bae is on

lashes as long as Africa and nails that mock talons. He just has to say "I hate meat" and LA Bae becomes a fisherman. He just has to say "I love yellow" and no matter how much LA Bae

hates yellow she'll start patronising the colour. "I love keeping few friends" and She abandons her friends.

Babe are you for real?! what happened to your opinion? What is wrong with your own likes too? Were they never genuine?

This is what angers me most, the fact that after she has succeeded in loosing her sense of worth, started living for him and is finally all what this guy loves: a lady with long nails, long lashes, no

eyebrows, big butt and all of that He dumps her.

He freaking dumps her claiming that "She has changed", not even considering the fact that She changed because She thought that's what he liked her to be.

After all the heartbreaks She moves on and decides to date others but the same thing keeps going on. She keeps changing for all the guys she dates;

Shakiti Bobo, Skle skle bobo etc. Now when these relationships go wrong you'll hear her crying that

She can't live without shakiti bobo, Skle skle Bobo, Baba Blue and the rest. That's because all through these relationships She wasn't herself, She was what her boyfriends wanted her to be. At the end

of the day and after going through all the

heartbreaks, the lady left is no more LA Bae but instead a mix of shakiti, a little bit of Baba and a slice of Le boo.

Ladies, being in a relationship isn't about changing totally to what the guy loves. I believe relationships thrive when two different people try their best to make something work. When there's

variety there's constant movement, surprises and happiness in that relationship. It's best your

boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't expect or anticipate your next move but rather He or She should be open to surprises; they should expect you to react

and argue, they should be willing to also try the things you love even when they hate it. Infact they should love, respect and accept you the way you

are. I'm not saying try to change them or force them to love your dirty habits but instead open their minds and experiences to other awesome

things that you've seen and experienced. Show them that you aren't perfect and your flaws make you what you are today. If he loved the package at

first, why try to change it now after months have gone by?

Try not to be LA Bae...don't change for Him but rather try to compromise when necessary...